Time for Experience.

by | Jun 13, 2022

Experience of Time is Relative.

In our human experience, time is relative. You have all experienced an enjoyable event in which the passing of time evaporated from your senses. Hours may have past yet it seemed only a short time for you. In another experience which you found boring, minutes dragged on as if they were bloated hours. In both cases the clock ticked at the same rate but your experience of the passing of time was very different.

Time is the Rate of Experiences.

How we each experience time, record time and create time in our experience is specific to us and has direct impact on how we then respond in our world. Time could be considered as the rate of our experience. Where experiences are few and far between (like being bored) time is slow and looooong. When we are busy with lots happening around us, time is short, fast and there is nowhere near enough of it. So too, the quality of our experience can impact time. If we are focussed on detail, an experience can be broken into many smaller experience chunks so then we have a lot of experiences, or vice versa, we can group small experience chunks into a bigger one and so have fewer experiences. Because we have this, as well as many more ways to experience time we can adjust how we relate to time and how it impacts our behaviours.

One Way to Change Experienced Time.

A good example of this is when I work with people, often in a work place, where they have too much to do and not enough time. They feel overwhelmed. (This is also contributed to by the workplace management processes and is not just the person). The part of this that a person can directly affect is the way they view their tasks in relation to time. When I have a person with this issue, I ask, “If you imagine all the jobs you need to do, where do you feel they are situated about you?” Often I get a confused look with a head movement that looks all about. I thrust my hand up close to their eyes and say, “Does it seem like it is right here in your face?” They often swallow and say “yes” or just nod their head. “How does it feel?” I ask. Often they respond with words like smothered, hard to breathe, like it will all fall on me and so on. My hand is still up in their face and I ask them to imagine stacking all their work right on that hand. I then ask them, while moving my hand away from them, to notice what happens when I stretch the pile of work out and away from them, leaving the work spaced out in priority, the closest being the first to focus on. I stretch out, a little up and to one side so that they can sense the gap that exists between each job or task. I check how it feels for them and adjust the positioning to get improved results. I can see the change by their facial and postural changes. I ask how they feel so that they too notice a change on a conscious level. Essentially we have recoded how they store their ‘To do list’ in their mind in a way that reduces the sense of pressure for them. Reducing the pressure then provides better focus and capacity to do the tasks.

Examine Your Coding of Time.

By sitting quietly and examining your inner relationship to time and how you ‘code’ it in your mind in varying contexts, you too will be able to adjust and tweak that coding to improve your outcomes and behaviours that are time related. If you want to explore this further with an NLP Master Practitioner, give me a call.